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12:00 AM, May 19, 2017 / LAST MODIFIED: 12:00 AM, May 19, 2017


Where rapists do not fear to tread

News stories of two young women accusing the son of a well known jewellery store and one of his friends, of raping them at a hotel in Banani after a birthday party, are doing the rounds, evoking all sorts of reactions among the public. Among these reactions are the ones that we all expect—that they were 'bad girls', that they were wearing western clothes and attending late night parties with men, that they had it coming, that it was a big scam to extort money and so on. Public shaming of rape victims who do not conform to the patriarchal definition of the 'good woman' is still very much a part of why so many rapists go scot free. It is why many women prefer to suffer the ordeal of knowing nothing will happen to the man/men who have left her with the worst kind of trauma, rather than disclose the truth. Strangely, even those who do conform to the ideals of a 'pure woman' will somehow be stigmatised for life. This holds true whether the victim is a seven-year-old child, a 16-year-old schoolgirl or even an 80-year-old grandmother—the shame will never leave them. Because society will not let go of that shame. 

Society, on the other hand, is generally more lenient towards sex offenders, although in the Banani rape cases the pressure created by social and mainstream media has led to the arrest of two of the accused. Many newspapers have published pictures of the accused and given details about their apparent decadent lifestyle, sadly confirming the stereotypical image depicted in Bangla commercial cinema and TV serials, of the spoilt rich kid going too far with his debauchery and a father who seems to be condoning it. Hence the enthusiasm of the media to pursue this case exposing the alleged rapists and condemning their crime. But what if the rapist was just the local goon of a remote village or small town far from the city, and the victim, the daughter of an ordinary man with no connections? First of all, the news mainstream media provides is usually a sketchy report that gets lost in the multitude of reports. Follow ups are rare. Secondly, apart from the initial outrage, social media interest wanes very easily while mainstream media moves on to the next horrific crime. 

Meanwhile, in that remote village or forgotten neighbourhood, the victim becomes the subject of all kinds of humiliation. If a case is lodged and the police actually takes it, there is a high chance of the incident being settled out of court through an arbitrary, unofficial arbitration or through threats of dire consequences if the case is pursued any further. The rapist is often in a position of greater power in terms of both finances and connections and enjoys the indulgence of his family. This pretty much ensures that the rapist will eventually go scot free. Only a small number of them actually get sentences. 

While the law dealing with rape is stringent, the process of getting legal redress ends up being formidable for the victim and favourable for the accused, an extension of a culture that is grossly discriminatory against females. Boys grow up in a society that allows them to be entitled and with a conviction that women are inferior to them and born to serve. Thus wife beating, sexual harassment and sexual violence are not seen as heinous crimes but rather as “misdemeanours” that should not be made too much fuss over. It is only when the misdemeanour goes against the norms of society, such as when an infant is molested or a woman is killed after rape, that some public outrage is seen though that too will die down with time. 

In a city like Dhaka, when the accused is from the wealthy classes, it is more likely that the case will get far more public and media scrutiny. What is encouraging about the Banani case is that despite reports that the accused have tried to use their political connections and wads of cash to get the police to not take the case, two of the key suspects and two of the abettors have been arrested. What is discouraging is the compulsive show of wealth of individuals leading to reckless behaviour reinforced by the indulgence of guardians, that this case has revealed. 

Of course, there is no foolproof formula for good parenting. There are no guarantees that despite all your efforts to be the best mother or the best father to your child, he/she will not turn out to be a monster. There are no guarantees, but there are at least some guidelines that are universal. When fathers engage in debauched lifestyles and parents pour their children with cash, expensive gadgets and cars without giving them any lessons on honesty, decency and respect for women, it gives their entitled sons the notion of invincibility. The seeds of delinquent behaviour are sown. Thus, while these young men who thought they were above the law, should be punished for their crimes, their parents are also culpable for not teaching their sons one of the basic rules of being civilised. That when a woman says no, regardless of what she is wearing or how late it is or whatever label she has been branded with, and they still force themselves on her—it is rape, a crime that deserves the harshest punishment under law.

Aasha Mehreen Amin is Deputy Editor, Editorial and Op-ed, The Daily Star.

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