Let's go back a couple of decades, to the days of 'borof-pani', Powerpuff Girls and happily ever afters. Back when the Internet still had not replaced television, we would enjoy singing along jingles that played all throughout the days with our siblings and cousins. What made that even more fun was when we would put on matching clothes so we could pretend to be in a band, singing and dancing in sync.
Fast forward to the present day, when there is only a month left till our cousin's wedding. That little girl we grew up with is now frustrated because many of the things did not go the way she had imagined.
Shada theke hobe ki reh haat paye alta laga,
mone je rong kajol chhilo lal kajole shaja
BODHUA BY KRISHNOKOLI
A bride has this pressure to look perfect on every occasion, all the while being tensed about the new life she is about to embark on. The biggest support for a bride at these moments is to be surrounded by the people she loves. Watching them singing and laughing alongside each other carries her through her subconscious turmoil.
It is important to focus on the things that are going perfectly well despite all the trouble and hassle. We all grew up listening to classical Bengali wedding songs like Leelabali Leelabali, Haate Oina Jur Bendi and Holud Bato Mendi Bato.
So when the bride hears their timeless choruses being sung on her own wedding, it is sure to evoke memories of childhood dreams of her wedding day that are now turning into reality. She realises that this wedding is really happening, and everything will soon be alright.
Shundori komola chorone nupur rini-jhini koriya baje reh
While the main Holud ceremony is going underway to the cheerful melodies of Habib's Panjabiwala and Jadu, the performers are still frantically trying to figure out how to set up the stage and who will go on to perform first.
The best singers among them will perform their rendition of Remix Qawali from the movie Bindaas. The best dancers are going with Ashona from the movie Borbaad, a song that picks up the mood of even the most morose of crowds. And those who cannot sing or dance to save themselves are doing their funniest impression of Tikatulir More.
The kids giggle as they watch others tying handkerchiefs to their sleeves and putting on their sunglasses and caps. The kids are the most excited to perform - too excited to even care about the dance moves they have rehearsed for 'Shohag Chaad Bodoni Dhoni'.
Her aunts and uncles are super pumped to have their own slot and they are determined to make it the best. They have picked out 'Hiramoti Hiramoti' and 'Amar Gorur Garite', both of which are oldies but 'goldies' because of their upbeat tune and fun lyrics. They want their slot to be the much needed throwback to the golden ages of Bengali music for everyone who is still young at heart.
Jemon khushi temon kore jachai kore lou,
ami premer ghater majhi,
majh doriyae nao dubabo na
SHOB SHOKHIRE PAR KORITE…
It is time for Sangeet and this time the groom's side of the family will be performing as well. So, that translates to a bigger audience, and more pressure, to bring on our A-game. The first performance of the night is by his friends to the songs 'Bondhu Tor Barat' and 'Dhakar Pola', which is also their entrance theme.
While Ananta Jalil has a strong following, everyone in Bangladesh simply adores Momtaz. So when she brought out yet another catchy song about heartbreak and betrayal we could not get enough of it. And soon enough the song had everyone swaying to the beats and doing a 'mini-bhangra' with their shoulders whenever the chorus came up. But when we thought we were all but done wiping the floor with the other side, it was now the turn of all the performers to be shocked. The bride and groom had secretly been rehearsing to the 90s hit-song, Assalamalaikum Biyanshaab.
These are the moments that we will always forever cherish, when two families come together to bless and rejoice at the union of the bride and groom, and leave knowing that they can trust each other with caring for and accepting the person they all love. A 'deshi' wedding is nothing if not a celebration of love amongst family members. And what is a celebration without good music, right?
Photo: Sazzad Ibne Sayed
Models: Meghla, Riba and Mahi
Make-up: Farzana Shakil's Makeover Salon
Location: Eskay by Saimul Karim
Disclaimer: If you are reading this, feel free to choose whichever songs you love for your wedding, they necessarily do not have to be the ones mentioned here. If your wedding is coming up soon, this writer wishes you the best of memories for your future.